The holidays are supposed to be joyous celebrations of tradition, with food, family and fun. But if you’re trying to conceive and having fertility issues the celebrating can become an ordeal. Add in a global pandemic and you’ve got challenges that might seem insurmountable.
You can get through the holidays with your spirits and hopes intact! It’s essential to take care of yourself this time of year, and your partner, too. Here are some suggestions to make this holiday a little easier.
Pick and Choose Your Events – Keep It Virtual
Forget about what you “should” do. You don’t have to accept every invitation or go to every get-together. If there are events you are dreading instead of anticipating, it’s okay to say no. Be a little selfish. Now is the time to be kind to yourself and cut yourself (and your partner) a little slack. Especially during these uncertain times, limit your exposure to babies, children and pregnant women among your family or friends if it causes you pain. Maybe this year just do a virtual visit with loved ones to keep everyone safe and your emotions intact.
It’s OK to Feel Bad During the Holidays
A lot of people get really depressed during the holidays, even if they are not struggling with fertility problems. Allow yourself to feel sad, deprived or depressed. Experts agree that allowing your grief to surface instead of pushing it down may actually free up more energy for happiness. Give yourself some quiet time and let the feelings out for 20 minutes or so. Let your partner have his or her feelings, too. Talk with each other about your feelings and recognize what an effort you each are making in such a difficult time.
Decide What You’re Going to Say, In Advance
Even if you stick to online gatherings this year, you may still be asked the dreaded question about when you plan to start a family. Be prepared and you can handle it with less emotion. You can deflect it, saying something like “We’re working on it and hoping it’ll be soon,” then change the subject.
Gather Your Support System
Your family and friends may be a good support system for you. If you’re feeling bad, calling someone you love and trust can help. Or join a support group with other couples who are also going through similar issues.
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